Why did absalom killed amnon

It would shame Tamar and reveal Amnon as one of the fools. Blinded by lust, Amnon would not see the inevitable result of his desire. Please speak to the king; for he will not withhold me from you : The Law of Moses commanded against any marriage between a half-brother and half-sister Leviticus Tamar probably said this simply as a ploy to get away from Amnon. He forced her and lay with her : This was nothing but rape. Tamar did whatever she could to avoid this and all the blame clearly rests on Amnon.

Then Amnon hated her exceedingly, so that the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. Amnon was attracted to Tamar for what he could get from her, not out of concern for her.

In this single-minded lust, Amnon only built upon the example of his father David. David was never this dominated by lust, but he was pointed in the same direction. This is often how the iniquity of the fathers is carried on by the children to the third and fourth generations Exodus The hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her : Amnon had no real love for Tamar, only lust — and so he immediately felt guilty over his sin.

Tamar was simply a reminder of his foolish sin. He wanted every reminder of his sin to be put far away. He is the soul of kindness. He is very attentive. He calls all the time. He opens the door for you. If he really loves you, he will. If you really love him and want him, make him wait. If you really love God, and love yourself, make him wait. This evil of sending me away is worse than the other that you did to me.

Put this woman out, away from me, and bolt the door behind her. And his servant put her out and bolted the door behind her.

This evil of sending me away is worse than the other that you did to me : What Amnon did to Tamar was wrong, but he could still somewhat redeem the situation by paying her bride-price in accordance with Exodus and Deuteronomy The payment was meant to compensate for the fact that Tamar was now less likely to be married because she was no longer a virgin.

A robe of many colors : The idea behind the Hebrew phrase is that it was a robe extending all the way down to the wrists and ankles, as opposed to a shorter one. It was a garment of privilege and status, showing the person did not have to work much. Put this woman out… bolt the door behind her : Tamar deserved better treatment as an Israelite. Tamar deserved better treatment as a relative. Tamar deserved better treatment as a sister.

Tamar deserved better treatment as a princess. Despite all this, Amnon spitefully treated Tamar as this woman.

Then Tamar put ashes on her head, and tore her robe of many colors that was on her, and laid her hand on her head and went away crying bitterly. But now hold your peace, my sister. He is your brother; do not take this thing to heart. We don't know. They may have been made from dough laced with healing herbs. As Jonadab anticipates, David comes, grants Amnon's request, and directs Tamar to go to her brother's house to make him the cakes.

While she prepares the food, Amnon watches her through the open door from his bedroom. Then he demands that everyone leave the room -- his own servants, as well as the handmaid who probably serves as chaperone for Tamar.

When she hands him the food at his bedside, he grabs her, commands her to have sex with him, and tries to rape her. She resists. She tries to argue that raping her:.

Amnon doesn't listen to reason. He is stronger, overpowers her, and rapes her. Whether this would be considered incest in David's time, we're not sure. To marry a half-sister is forbidden in the Torah Leviticus , but there is the precedent of Abraham and Sarah. At least Tamar tells Amnon that marriage would be possible. She is doing everything she can to avoid being raped!

For the crown prince to rape his sister will certainly be considered an outrageous breach of Israel's law! Now that Amnon has raped Tamar, his "love" turns to intense hatred. Why did Amnon now hate the sister whom he once "loved"? First, because he never truly loved her. Rather he was infatuated, fed by obsessive lust.

Second, he was probably transferring to her the loathing he felt for himself for such a despicable act as rape, especially incestuous rape. This hatred is a form of projection. Amnon subconsciously denies his own sin and projects it on his half-sister. We saw projection at work with David's judgment on the man in Nathan's parable in Lesson 10 above. Absalom commands Tamar, "Get up and get out! The law requires the rapist of an unbetrothed virgin to marry her. By sending her away, Amnon is putting her in a position in this culture that no decent man will ever marry her -- and indeed that is the case!

Tamar rips her beautiful royal robe and puts ashes on her head -- marks of deep mourning -- and goes away weeping loudly. She leaves with her hand on her head, apparently another sign of grief Jeremiah She is shattered, unable to contain her grief! When her brother Absalom hears of it, he realizes what has happened. He says, "Be quiet now, my sister; he is your brother.

Don't take this thing to heart" a. This sounds like little comfort to me. However, it also seems that Absalom is saying, "Don't worry about it.

I'll deal with him. How sad! David's reaction is anger -- but he takes no action to punish a criminal act. Indeed, some early versions of the text add a sentence to verse 21 that could well have been in the original, but was omitted by a copyist from the Masoretic text:. The king's son, the heir to the throne, can get away with rape and incest. Here is another hint of a flaw in David's leadership that we first noticed in Lesson 7 , when Joab murders Amasa and David takes no action to bring justice Perhaps the very reason that Amnon rapes his sister is because he is sure that his father won't do anything to him.

If this were judged to be incest according to Leviticus , 29, the exact punishment seems vague, [] but we are not sure this is the issue here. For raping an unbetrothed virgin, Amnon could be forced to pay a bride price and marry Tamar Exodus In addition David doesn't want to cloud the crown prince's status by a marriage that neither he nor Tamar really wanted -- and a marriage which would be unacceptable to the people.

What David could have done -- and probably should have done -- would have been to formally remove Amnon from succession to the kingship for such a despicable act. However, beyond being angry, David doesn't do anything. Sadly, he has lost the moral authority he had as the righteous king who loves Yahweh.

How can he judge his own son for sexual sins and not judge himself? Where parents lose the moral leadership of their families, their children have neither a consistent role model nor an authority figure by which to guide their own actions. Dear friends, Satan would have us believe that illicit sex between "consenting adults" is no one's business but their own.

That is a lie. Our sins have consequences beyond ourselves, and can damage anyone within our sphere of influence. At the political level, sexual misdeeds have toppled governments, made it difficult for presidents to lead, and kept people from running for high office.

In churches, we have seen congregations devastated and parishioners disillusioned, their faith destroyed. On the home front, sexual misdeeds destroy families, create poverty, and mess up the lives of children. God help us and have mercy on us! Absalom, who appears to be in second position to assume the kingship on David's death, does not do anything either -- for now. He makes no public statements. He waits. What are the consequences of David's inaction?

Absalom's hatred simmers for two years. Then he makes his move. Spring sheep shearing is often celebrated with festive meals and a spirit of generosity as the wool is harvested 1 Samuel Absalom makes a big point of trying to get his father and his court to come -- knowing that they will not attend.

When David makes his excuses, Absalom moves to his real purpose: to request that his father send Amnon, the crown prince, to represent him and convey his blessings on this occasion.

David questions this, but then agrees to send all his sons to the festivities. Now Absalom can get to Amnon unguarded. Absalom orders his men to kill Amnon when he becomes drunk and they do. The crown prince is assassinated by the second in line to the throne -- who now is in line for the throne himself! Absalom's primary motive is to avenge his sister's rape and rejection.

However, this is aligned with another strong ambition -- to be king himself someday! James J. Accordingly, he presently ordered her to be brought to him; and when she was come, Amnon bade her make cakes for him, and fry them in a pan, and do it all with her own hands, because he should take them better from her hand [than from any one's else]. So she kneaded the flour in the sight of her brother, and made him cakes, and baked them in a pan, and brought them to him; but at that time he would not taste them, but gave order to his servants to send all that were there out of his chamber, because he had a mind to repose himself, free from tumult and disturbance.

As soon as what he had commanded was done, he desired his sister to bring his supper to him into the inner parlor; which, when the damsel had done, he took hold of her, and endeavored to persuade her to lie with him. Whereupon the damsel cried out, and said, "Nay, brother, do not force me, nor be so wicked as to transgress the laws, and bring upon thyself the utmost confusion. Curb this thy unrighteous and impure lust, from which our house will get nothing but reproach and disgrace.

This she said, as desirous to avoid her brother's violent passion at present. But he would not yield to her; but, inflamed with love and blinded with the vehemency of his passion, he forced his sister: but as soon as Amnon had satisfied his lust, he hated her immediately, and giving her reproachful words, bade her rise up and be gone.

And when she said that this was a more injurious treatment than the former, if, now he had forced her, he would not let her stay with him till the evening, but bid her go away in the day-time, and while it was light, that she might meet with people that would be witnesses of her shame, -- he commanded his servant to turn her out of his house.

Whereupon she was sorely grieved at the injury and violence that had been offered to her, and rent her loose coat, [for the virgins of old time wore such loose coats tied at the hands, and let down to the ankles, that the inner coats might not be seen,] and sprinkled ashes on her head; and went up the middle of the city, crying out and lamenting for the violence that had been offered her.

Now Absalom, her brother, happened to meet her, and asked her what sad thing had befallen her, that she was in that plight; and when she had told him what injury had been offered her, he comforted her, and desired her to be quiet, and take all patiently, and not to esteem her being corrupted by her brother as an injury.

Then he followed unwise counsel, rebelled against his own father, and tried to steal David's kingdom. Absalom imitated his father's weaknesses instead of his strengths. He allowed selfishness to rule him, instead of God's law. When he tried to oppose God's plan and unseat the rightful king, destruction came upon him.

He went up to the room over the gateway and wept. My son, my son Absalom! If only I had died instead of you—O Absalom, my son, my son! Actively scan device characteristics for identification. Use precise geolocation data. Select personalised content. Create a personalised content profile. Measure ad performance. Select basic ads. Create a personalised ads profile. Select personalised ads. Apply market research to generate audience insights. Measure content performance. Develop and improve products.